Dying into Grace is directed to family and professional caregivers, and those who support and train them. Its overall purpose is to inform and inspire you about possibilities at the end of life, and empower you to realize them. Despite our death-phobic culture and medical establishment, it tries to prevent both of you from being cheated of all that could have been, to help you to have fewer regrets in the endless after that follows. And, if you are as fortunate as my mother and I were, to experience yourself and your relationship as forever transformed. To this end,

Dying into Grace offers us:

• A map which brings order out of the seeming chaos of the caregiving experience, allowing us to get our bearings in this unfamiliar and daunting territory, see its underlying coherence and innate structure, and give ourselves the recognition we deserve.

• An understanding that caregiving and dying are not separate processes, but form an interdependent relationship through which dying's healing potential can be released when both partners open to the moment and each other.

• A reframing of dying as an intimate dance between dying and caregiving partners in which the caregiver follows, yet anticipates how her partner will lead, and sees her overarching role as creating the physical-energetic-sacred space for deeper connection, surprising moments, and mutual growth and healing.

• Dance steps and coaching that help us navigate more consciously and effectively, and focus our time and priorities on what truly matters while reminding us there is no perfect here, only doing the best we can with what we have and where we are at the time.

• A story and guiding principles that illuminate how to transform dying from a biomedical event to an emotional-relational-spiritual journey that can unlock its mutually transformative potential and leave us with fewer regrets in the endless After.